How saying NO affects kids – The other day I was looking at a video shared by a mom in our Mommy group. The video was in short emphasizing the need for mums to be strict and telling kids their limits for their own good. It said that children of strict mothers turn out to be more successful than children of those who are supposed to be lenient.
This got me thinking, “Am I a strict mother”? I realised that while I do believe in setting limits and letting children know that they cannot get away with everything, I do not say ‘NO’ to most things. I believe in saying ‘YES’ more often than not.
So, I was discussing this with my friend and she said that I am a gentle parent. Perhaps I am or MAYBE NOT! I certainly believe that there should be limits to everything and I tell my child categorically when I feel she is doing something wrong or if I feel something could be dangerous for her. But I still say YES to a lot of day to day stuff.
So, when I saw this video about how kids can get affected when we stop them from doing simple things, it reinforced my beliefs about not saying NO to most things.
And yes! I have been judged for being a #YESMom. I have received sideward glances because I let my daughter hang upside down on the monkey bars, or when I let her play in the sand or even climb a tree or jump in puddles left after the rain.
I have been told things like, “Arre, tumko chinta nahi hoti, wo beemar pad jayegi” or “Badi lenient mom ho tum”. Most of the times, I just let these comments pass with a smile. I am a complete believer of ‘To each her own’, so I try not to judge others, but do not enjoy being judged myself too.
I also feel most requests that you want to say NO to can be turned into YES with a simple tweak. So, if my daughter wants her favourite chocolate, I say Yes, we can have it once a month. If she wants to watch a particular TV program, she has to let go of something else, because she knows too much of TV is bad for her. I try not to say ‘NO’ outright, unless it is something which might be dangerous for her like once she wanted to make an omlette all by herself including frying. We bargained on breaking the egg, mixing the seasoning and beating, even putting the egg in cold frying pan, but I took over after that while she watched. So in a way saying Yes is also a healthy habit for kids.
So here are my reasons for being a YESMom.
Effects on children when you say “YES” more often.
Are you a #YESMom too? What effect do you think saying YES to kids more often has on kids?
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